Wednesday, June 22, 2011

waiting for a missionary: 101.

as most of the population in utah county, girls 18-21 are currently waiting for their missionary. me, ripe age of 18 started on this endeavor a little earlier than most. i was 16 when he left and will be 18 for three days when he returns. i didn't know what to expect. i went into this blind. the only other missionary i had known was my sister and though equally rewarding in the blessings, having your boyfriend serve a mission is a completely opposite experience. i feel as if it is my job to inform those who have just recently started the two year wait with my knowledge and advice. so, ladies, welcome to waiting for a missionary: 101.

  1. when writing letters keep them up beat and positive. though, at times you may be struggling and wish to tell them about it, keep it short and simple. and always finish with, but don't worry about me, i will be okay. they probably will still worry, but just give them that reassurance that everything will be okay. 
  2. i didn't know if it was okay to say things like "i miss you" or "i can't wait to see you" and i learned it is, but i like to follow those statements with "but you're doing and indescribable job and you are in the right place at the right time." therefore, they know you miss them, but they also know that you are 100% supportive of their hard work. 
  3. decorate the envelopes. its fun and adds some color to the boring white. 
  4. i place all my letters in a large binder, acquipped with page protectors and in order of receival date. i have also heard of making copies of the letters you send which in fact is a wonderful idea, i don't do that though. 
  5. pray for them everyday. it will bring you two closer. 
  6. send them packages. include things like their favorite candy and inside jokes. random toys that will keep them occupied when they have a minute of down time. a tie is always a necessity. perhaps in their favorite color and pattern. as for mine, he likes the orange paisley ties.  
  7. missionaries love pictures. send them pictures often. of your new peacoat or shoes, family gatherings or big events, and send pictures with messages. i.e see below.
  8. stalk the mtc. every girl just has to do it. though, i regretfully did not. it makes for a great story later in life.
  9. include scriptures, your testimony, talks, quotes or other inspiration things to letters. it will come in handy one day. 
  10. listen to the promptings you get to write him unexpectedly. they will be a little miracle in his and your life. 
  11. draw him pictures. they will hang them on their bulletin boards.  
  12. on those especially hard days, re-read letters, look through photographs, and pray.
  13. at times, you will be selfish and just wish he was right there by you. just remember the promises and what good he is doing in the world. 
  14. pray for their investigators. ask them about the investigators, about the ward, about his companion, his mission president, the food he is eating, his apartment, stories, missionaries love to tell stories. 
  15. learn the mission lingo. if you don't understand it, ask them they will clarify in no time. in the end it saves a lot of confusion. 
  16. check the mail box every day. 
  17. when starting a letter, i always write his name in big bold colorful letters, sometimes i had little effects to spice up the letter. date each letter also, top right corner is the perfect place. 
  18. memory card. it will be your new best friend. record videos on a memory card and send them to him. he can watch them on p-day. and if he is smart, he will do the same for you. 
  19. ask for pictures. there is nothing better than a picture of your elder in the field. 
  20. and last but not least, remember that time does move on. it may not feel like it some days and you may get frustrated and you may cry, but time goes by and you learn to love that boy more that you thought possible. 
though, my endeavor is not yet complete i've learned a lot. i wish i had a friend who knew what was going on. and i wish i had this advice, but with some time and creativity i figured it out, and you will too.  


  1. This is great, and I know what you're going through. My boyfriend left when I was 16 too. He comes home in August, I wish I could of read this earlier though. I guess I will just have to do this for the last 2 months. :)

  2. Hello, I don't know you but I really enjoy reading your blog. This especially got to me because my guy just left on June 8th. It was one of the hardest things saying goodbye to him but I know that this is where he is supposed to be. However, I am excited to start doing all of these things. Thanks for all the great ideas. :)


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